The Malagasy people, like any other race, have the values they are strongly attached to. One of these values is « valibabena »; it is a feeling of recognition or gratitude that we normally feel towards a person who has supported us regardless of the circumstance, who has helped us, who has shown us affection , love or friendship.The notion of « valibabena » refers firstly to the idea of recognition that we owe to our parents;
I. Who should bear witness to this noble feeling ?
The importance of good behavior towards parents is immense. Indeed, children must show this feeling of gratitude to their biological or adoptive parents. Among the Malagasy, this is a duty of great importance because without them, children would not have succeeded in life; the success being here in the studies and leaving in the professional field. It is always essential to remember that parents struggled to give us a good education happiness and good health. In short, parents worked hard to secure the future of their children so much, so, the offspring should be grateful to them. This recognition can be manifested in different ways, by kindness by offering them small gifts or by helping them according to their needs. Finally, remember that respect is also a sign of recognition.
Besides, it is quite normal to have this feeling of gratitude towards someone else who deserves it. Thus, to make a gesture of gratitude towards someone who saved our life during a fire, for example, or quite simply towards a doctor who took care of some delicate operation, through teachers who have been very patient in explaining a lesson to us as well, is always recommended as it is a sign of gratitude.
However, there are cases where some parents find it almost impossible to give their children what they will need for their future. Thus, they should not be ignored because they always deserve to be thanked by their children.
II. What could “VALIBABENA” entail in societal life?
1. Stronger interpersonal relationships.
Indeed, the “Valibabena” only maintains good relations. It is practically impossible to harm a person who has always done us good, who has some regard for us.
2. Sense of well-being
Parents and children alike, after having done their duty, feel very relieved from a great burden. Obviously, only the conscientious can experience this feeling. Thus, on the one hand as on the other, we experience this feeling of well-being, of satisfaction in having accomplished our duty.
3. Preservation of happy memories
Making a “Valibabena” sustains us by allowing us to keep happy memories. Feeling only good things promotes our optimism and prompts us to do only good.
4. Better communication
Better communication is automatically established between the two interlocutors when this very precious value, which is the “Valibabena”, is always taken into account. This perpetuates a good understanding that promotes communication.
To be grateful is simply to be thankful for the things you have every day. “VALIBABENA” is a good way to maintain “FIHAVANANA” or FRATERNITY, but also something that you do for yourself, to be at peace with everyone and with yourself. Well-being is essential for personal development and for a good life. Be the change you want to see.
The “Valibabena”, is it a feeling of recognition or gratitude that we always feel towards a person or can we also feel it at the homeland or why not at the mother Nature ?